There are exactly 4 weeks until Valentine’s Day 2017. I decided sometime in December that this year I HAD to do something DIFFERENT and I invite you to join me in a challenge that I’ve given myself . . . something I’m calling the Love Your Husband Challenge!
• I will be completing at least one conscious act of love for my husband every single day until Valentine’s Day.
• Your challenge, if you choose to accept it, is to join me and complete a conscious act of love for your husband today, and every single day until Valentine’s Day.
Choose your love: love your choice
– President Thomas S. Monson
I love my husband every single day! In fact, I shower him with love whenever I get a chance! So . . . why did I give myself the challenge to do a conscious act of love for him every day until Valentine’s Day?
Because when I entered the Sacramento LDS Temple almost five years ago, I knew I was marrying my husband for eternity. Our intention was that we would create what we called an “epic marriage”. We wanted to grow with each other, face challenges together, celebrate triumphs together, and be even more madly in love as the years rolled on than we were the day we got married.
The key word in that sentence though, is that we wanted to “create” an epic marriage, we knew it wouldn’t just happen to us . . . we needed to make the choices for that to happen. And therein lies one of the deepest misunderstandings I think I’ve ever heard about love: that it happens to us and that we can fall in and out of love and we have no choice in the matter.
I don’t believe that for a second. Rather, I believe love is a verb. Like the quote above, I believe we choose our love. I have chosen my husband. Because I have chosen my husband, I must love (verb) my choice.
‘love is a verb. The feeling of love is the fruit of love. So love your wife. You did it once, you can do it again. Listen. Empathize. Appreciate. It’s your choice. Are you willing to do that?’
– Stephen R. Covey
I would rephrase this for myself to “love him, listen to him, empathize with him, appreciate him”. There is no such thing as giving too much love. So if I love (verb) my husband every day, why give myself this challenge? Because I want my husband to feel loved and appreciated. I don’t think it’s even possible for me to give him too much love.
And why should you join me in this challenge? Because, in my opinion, it’s always a good time to love someone we love. What do you have to lose?
I am so excited about thinking up ways to show and communicate my love for my husband and to share them with you along the way. And I can’t wait to see what you come up with!
Some ideas to get you started: shoulder massage, give him a kiss, make dessert (or just scoop him some ice cream!), leave him a love note to find as he’s getting ready for work, plan a date, or a movie night at home.
I hope you will join me in this challenge! If you post about your random acts of love, please use the hashtag #theloveyourhusbandchallenge so I can see them! I’d love some more ideas for random acts of love I can do for my husband. If you have any ideas, please share them in the comments!